Fem gay guys
 

So, reading the thread by NeekoNeeko about girly lookin ukes, it made me want to start a topic about fem looking gay guys. I dont hate them, but do not find them attractive. When i say attractive i dont mean they arent good looking but dont make me AT ALL turned on(no joke), but when i think of "gay", i think of "guy" not "girl." So what is up with all these really girly gay guys? I want a man....lmfao. Someone as strong as me(i'm not a body builder or anything, with a guy's physique(skinny is fine), maybe a little facial hair and clothes that aren't so fem. I dont want make-up or sparkles, or to much Hollister fragrance, leave that to the girls. I want a guy that doesn't cream over Britney Spears music. And if we hang out, not to be stared at because we look like a flaming couple. In my town all the gay guys were spotted 4+ years before they came out, I know their are more like me, but where are they!!! lmao

• Anyone else feel me?
• What do you think about really girly gay gays?
• Would you like a man's man, or a sparkly, or "so tan they look mexican" guy? (latinos are hot btw)
• Where are the (gay) guys at! lol Are they scared to come out?
• Why would they be afraid to come out? Is it because of the flaming ones they dont wanna be associated with? ( sadly that's my reason for telling no one i am bi except you guys :D, i could almost careless about what my family thinks at this time in my life, being 21 )
• If your not "out" why? ( i'm not and it's because of the "Gay" lifestyle, i could go on and on.)
• Finally, bi and gay guys reading this, what are you into? Winecoolers, britney spears and nothing but Hollister clothes, or Games, a beer and what most would consider "straight" conversation? ( now, i dont HATE britney spears, at a club it is fine, dont hate hollister they make sick jeans (without holes), and winecoolers taste a hell of a lot better than beer)

Now, i understand how this could be a "flame" but, when you think about it, how can it be? it is a bi guy who "likes some dick"'s opinion. I may like to make out with girls, and some occasional action but i like a good dick once in awhile (which is hard, because all the "out" guys i know, i dont find attractive, because of ^^^said topic, and all my guy friends, which i have a shit load more of then girls, would prolly disown me, like they have done with other friends of ours )

I know what you mean. I am gay but in no way am I that girly. I joke about such things but I like men who are well men? Most of the gays I have known, both now and growing up, have been flaming with a side of petrol gay. I can always see why that type of gay can make some people nervous.

A man does not have to look like a girl to be attractive XD. I am not out out. My friends know and they where surprised because I am apparently don't act gay.

I actually really like manly men XD, but not hairy ick.

I think a lot of these posts/threads seem to be jumping into the deep end and taking things only from their most extreme examples.

Being effeminate is something common to straight men as much as as gay and shouldn't be confused with being a Fem or an Uke. Besides, I think Ukes can be very effeminate without actually indulging in anything either camp or girly. I do know one or two highly camp and effiminate guys and frankly if you actually meet the the real-life people rather than (I assume) looking at Kamitora dickgirl art you'll perhaps see the reality of Ukes and girly guys rather than the most extreme examples from art or television.

I'm not a big fan of people complaining about it though, some people are gay, get over it.
Sounds like the thin end of the wedge saying that your comfortable with people being intolerant to anyone whose gay simply because they don't like 'flaming queers.' Thats just a characterisation and anyone posting here should know thats just a personality and being gay is next to irrelevant. I've met a few (although not many!) straight guys just as glorious.

Maybe its just my part of the UK, but in my group of friends they love going out with one of our flaming gay friends. How can you hate someone so warm, funny and friendly?

I've got to be honest, whether its your intention or not Lucifer but your OP post reads to me like; "I'm the good kind of gay, but can't come out because my friends are intolerant of the bad kind of gay and the bad kind of gay would give me a bad name."
Probably not your intention.

Well...i think that the topic is more like ''do girly guys turn u on?'', not about ''girly'' personalities. Personally really girly guys dont turn me on(most of the time). As for the girly personality/style issue...it just doesn't bother me, democracy is about being able to express urself, and that's freedom. Unfortunately everything is ''cliqued'' , even between gay people. But that's not the matter here anyway :D

I do agree, I dislike girly men. They annoy me by being so loud and scream over britney spears and lady gaga, but if girls do that it annoys me as well. I'd really like a man, a strong man. I think people are afraid to come out because of the reactions of people, they immediately think of those really girly gay guys and wont accept them. Im not out because of that, and I think i'll wait a few years, I know my mom accepts it. I really dislike britney spears, lady gaga etc and I like games though I dont really like beer =D

The long hair in front/back or both as well as being skinny is fine. However, the feminine personality, glitter, and gleam isn't. I prefer a younger look over older when it comes to males. Not to the point where it is feminizing however. =/

Flembiyant gays are kind of a turn off, not because they are ugly, but the fact that in the back of my mind I see agirl. Which is a turn off because I like Dick not pussy lol. I have nothing fem in my voice which I thank god every day for lol. I don't know if they purposly make their voice girly or they are born with it. But yea...fun to hang out withflem gays as long as they don't try to get into my pants lol. Manly man please and thanks....like ichigo! :P

"What do you think about really girly gay gays?"
-They aren't my type, but I admit they are cute.

"Would you like a man's man, or a sparkly, or "so tan they look mexican" guy? (latinos are hot btw)"
-Don't really care.

"Where are the (gay) guys at! lol Are they scared to come out?"
-Depends on the person.

"Why would they be afraid to come out? Is it because of the flaming ones they dont wanna be associated with? ( sadly that's my reason for telling no one i am bi except you guys , i could almost careless about what my family thinks at this time in my life, being 21 )"
-I suppose they'd be a bit afraid, but I'd come out with it (I'm bi as well) anyway because I don't want to lose any chances of finding love.

"If your not "out" why? ( i'm not and it's because of the "Gay" lifestyle, i could go on and on.)"
-I'm out. To some of my family. It's hard finding time to go and seek out each of my family members (they all are spread across the US) or call them to tell them. I'll do it though.

What do you think about really girly gay gays?
... They are fine. I don't love all of them but some I really like. And if we're going for what 'kind' of gay people are, I suppose I fit more into the girly gay category than the 'straight acting' gay. I think whether someone is a 'girly' gay or not you need to be able to accept that even if you don't personally find them attractive. It's kind of unfair to make them seem like they somehow are less of a man because of their personality or how they dress. We might not turn you on but we 'girly gay' guys have feelings too you know. :p

Would you like a man's man, or a sparkly, or "so tan they look mexican" guy? (latinos are hot btw)
No preference really. I like guys who can have lots of different and surprising things about their personality. Like, a 'sparkly' as you put it who has a great personality and is fun to be with will make me as happy as a 'man's man'.

Where are the (gay) guys at! lol Are they scared to come out?
Why would they be afraid to come out? Is it because of the flaming ones they dont wanna be associated with? ( sadly that's my reason for telling no one i am bi except you guys :D, i could almost careless about what my family thinks at this time in my life, being 21 )
If your not "out" why? ( i'm not and it's because of the "Gay" lifestyle, i could go on and on.)
Look, I know you're bi and in the closet, and that's fine. If you're not ready to come out, then alright. But, you seem to actually be kind of homophobic. It's as if it's alright to be a certain type of gay, or bi, as long as you still act all manly. Even if you like 'manly' guys and consider yourself one that's no reason to blame other gays for you not coming out. There's nothing wrong with campness if it is how you want to express yourself.
Oh, I forgot to answer the question. >< Yeah, I'm fully out, not that it's the only thing I talk about. But if someone asked I would tell them, but I wouldn't wave it in someone's face for no reason and go on about it as if it's the only thing that makes me who I am. And if I was in the closet for whatever reason, I doubt it would be other 'gays' that would stop me coming out. It would be homophobes.

Finally, bi and gay guys reading this, what are you into? Winecoolers, britney spears and nothing but Hollister clothes, or Games, a beer and what most would consider "straight" conversation? ( now, i dont HATE britney spears, at a club it is fine, dont hate hollister they make sick jeans (without holes), and winecoolers taste a hell of a lot better than beer)
Um... If you mean hobby wise I like reading and watching tv/films.

Anyone else feel me?

Yea i feel you Luicifer :)

What do you think about really girly gay gays?

I know quite a few girly gay guys, and personally, I find them obnoxious and sometimes an embarassment. The girly gay guys ( I know, not talking about how others might now) are very loud, touchy (they touch my friends, who are girls, boobs!). I can't stand them, as being a gay man myself, they can turn the "gay" image into a bad one. Heck, there are so many, they have given the GSA at my school a "South Beach" attitude as raunchy, rude, and sexual. But this year, the major well known girly gays are now going around "swearing they are bisexual"! We all know them as gay, so we think that they saying they are bisexual is wrong, as c'mon, no girl would honestly go out with that...

Would you like a man's man, or a sparkly, or "so tan they look mexican" guy? (latinos are hot btw)

I want a man's man. I LOVE latino's as they are mainly guys I date. The ones I have dated have been macho, true men, not girly at all. And I am only slightly girly but i'm not a true girly gay guy. My friends tell me they love who I am because i'm a normal dude, not a flesh meat-head gay nor a effeminate.

Where are the (gay) guys at! lol Are they scared to come out?
Why would they be afraid to come out? Is it because of the flaming ones they dont wanna be associated with?
If your not "out" why?

Well you need to find them on your own! Most people are here are probably either women, or gay/bisexual men. I am gay myself as previously said. I view many LGBT people are petrified of coming out, due to the fact that they feel if they do, family and friends will reject them. And especially when their Latino, as most Latino famililes are Catholic, and are very strict and don't want any child of theirs to be gay/bisexual. Many even disown them! That's why they are so afraid of coming out. I view that most gay people do not care about flamers, because they are people too, yet they won't assossiate themselves with them because they give off a bad image. I am "out" and very PROUD of who I am! I LOVE being a gay man!


Finally, bi and gay guys reading this, what are you into? Winecoolers, britney spears and nothing but Hollister clothes, or Games, a beer and what most would consider "straight" conversation?

I am into a lot of things. Reading, Video Games, Swimming Ping-Pong, Anime (Yaoi and Bara obviously!). I do like Britney Spears, but I pefer when she was in her prime when I was about 7. She came out with "Toxic" and all those good songs. Now her good image is gone, she ruined it with the head-shaving, acting out, but I still listen to her as she still makes good music. But i'm not "OmG iT's BrItNEY SpeARS!" thats just annoying. I can't really consider anythign a "straight" conversation, as most straight guys that I know, are rude to me. But I do have some straight guy friends, and they are very "homo-friendly". But a "straight" conversation would be with a beer, watching football or any sport, and talking about some chick's boobs and her pussy. Now that is a true straight man.