Tops and Bottoms
 

Something I just read Sil say in another thread...made me wonder something. About the whole "seme and uke" thing. Not a fan of that stereotyping, but I don't hate on a relationship if someone likes to take on one role over the other. Maybe it's their personality, yes?

It made me think...are you a top, a bottom, or both? ^_~

I kind of laugh, because for anyone who knows me on other sites, I'm a spanko. And I like to be the one GETTING spanked usually. xD But when it comes to sex, I like the one that is GIVING it to someone else quite often. I switch back and forth, but I really, really like the idea of being the top for sex. ^_~

In other words, I sound a bit like I'm the uke, except when it's sex. Then I'm all RAWR my turn.

lmfao. I can't believe I just said that.
So, be it roleplay or something else...do you like to give, recieve, or take turns with both? ^_^ Who do you better relate to, if you can't honestly answer that question?

Mm, I've preached quite a bit about this kind of thing, but, in all honesty... a lot of the times I like to be the one in control. Nevertheless, there are times when I like to not be so much. It's a mood thing with me, I think. => Sex is so and so. Like a bit of A and B... but... I kinda like to... meeeh. >3 But in spanking? I think I am more top than bottom, but switch, essentially? O_o [Confused]

I view rps, the rare times that I play, I don't really transfer myself to the characters. Is that odd? ^__^; Gives me reign to play most any role, really.

I am a switch...I always thought I was pure uke in spanking untill me and Gypsy got together and I found that I can...take and dish out!...and I get a thrill in being the spanker...watching those little buns bounch and hearing the spankee cry and wiggle in my lap.....and I love the feeling of my backside getting a good tanning...so I am right in the middle of it all :D

Cross-chan, I think I know what you mean. I THINK. xD
It's really up to my mood as well, which is why nothing is 100%, but it's not 50-50 either. xD

xD Well admittedly, I'm not a sex person. I'm a foreplay ADDICT though, so it seems like I'm a fiend. lol.

I used to be able to roleplay or write and see from the perspective of a character I was nothing like. One that I couldn't put myself into. But somewhere along the line, I stopped, and I'm 100% sure that's why my writing suffers so. Dx

Arkham -
I tried spanking my partner. He wanted me to. I couldn't bring myself to enjoy it...I was jealous of him for getting what I wanted. =(
So I'm spankee most of the time. xD

Ha haa...thats funny...feeling jelouse that he was getting spanked and you wernt *giggles*
I must admit...if I was given the pure choice..I would always choose to be the spankee!

You're all so funny XD *rolls around giggling*

Hey, you know what? Sil's the most perfect seme you'll ever see :3 Spankee as I am (I know I'm switch, but ... y'know, I don't care right now), that don't fit quite well <<;

I'm too ignorant to care for stereotypes~ When it comes to sex, I'm the one giving. *cough yay for strapon cough*

I think many spankees are tiny semes ^^; Look at me, when I'm over someones lap, I still say what I want and what not, and I can stop it whenever I like, not like the spanker who never uses a safeword o-0
... I'm burbling senselessly ... Just ignore mee~

Whoot!!! Strap On!!!!

Ah my my such a loaded question this one.

I can say without a doubt that I am a switch, both in spanking and sex. Though I prefer to be in some form of control even when I'm submissive. So I guess I'm both a seme and an aggressive uke.

I also tend to be a foreplay addict. I LOVE to tease and torment until someone is just at the edge, and then deny them for just the smallest moment to make them crazy and then give them what they want.

Now spanking..I have to say I really like both sides of it but if I had to nail down and choose only one I would say spankee. But that's because I'm such a sadomasochist. XD

Well, now that I'm here I might as well open up.
I'm very submissive, both in spanking and sex. I just love to feel the sensations. In fact, I feel a bit sorry for the top, because as far as I can see, they don't get to experience as much. That isn't to say I won't try to top, or give someone a good spanking! After all, life is about learning, and the best way to do that is to experience. I guess with spanking, it comes down to me just being masochistic. I can't help but love certain "pain", heheeh.

I'm only a top. I just can't bring myself to submit to sex, nor spanking either. I love giving both, rather than receiving... specially one after another!

LOL...this is such an interesting topic. =D

I love gettin spanked (in fictions and all) it gives such a warm feeling on the skin..and it's erotic.. *evil glance* for all sex loverz ^^;;

I agree with Akhram, watching the cute lil spankee sob and wiggle and sometimes even trying to escape is such a full-fun dose~!!

I would have to say I tend toward submissive. I like it a lot more.

But there is something to be said for a good dominant. I tend to play more dominant roles, because I would rather be the dominant and have it done well.

This goes for spanking and sex. ^_^

Hmmmm...
I'de say I'm uke.
XD
But in my terms, since I am a girl who usually is used to going out with other girls, I call myself Neko.
(If those of you are not knowledgable about yuri like how I am, Neko is the Uke and Tachi is the seme)
I was tachi a few times...One time I was sorta tachi with my 3rd gf (who was a bitch) since she was somewhat shyer than me and with one of my boyfriends (Don't ask)
It's kinda fun I guess being the dominant one...
Though at the same time it's not really how I am cuz I'm more shy in relationships than in anything else, so therefor, I LIKE TO BE TEH BOTTOM!! >.<

(PS. I don't know if it's ok to reply to old posts but you know I'm here all by myself and I'm REALLY bored so posting all over the place is kinda entertaining for me XD)

I always like being the spankee and the uke, however I'm switchable when it comes to sex sometimes. Mostly uke though. hehe DOMINATE ME!

Hmm... top only

Uke, although sometimes for the right guy being Seke can be lots of fun.

That's wierd, my friends call me neko, but using it as the term for a cat. But I guess it means 2 things then. :p Anyhoo, I think I'd be the Uke. But I'll definitely have a lot of control over my seme, that's for sure...*muhahaa* :cool:
Btw, I'm new here, m name is Lara. Nice to meet 'yall.

I'm versatile, but most of the time I am the uke.

I just... Love taking it :$ Hehehe

I don't know why I get off on being bottom, but I do... So, if I had the choice from which one to pick from, it'd be bottom (same with being spanked too XD)

I think i´d rather be bottom ;)

Definitely a bottom. Although I understand the whole deal with classifying people and piling them neatly into boxes. I mean to each his own right? :p

Hmmm..... You guys are such experts in this...

Just a quick question to the other guys like Cross~chan and Mushy and some others...

"Have you ever tried SEX before?"

Well, just asking... Because you all say it like it's just an everyday thing.. [no offense].

I haven't tried it yet, but still, a person can hope right?

Anyway, my answer to the question is...


I would rather choose being the bottom. I just like the idea of being dominated and being pleasured by my partner.

hehehe. And the pain sounds good too...


Anyway, about spanking, I want to be spanked... ^_^__^

Charr, I don't really limit myself to one particular thing
I don't really believe in the whole stereotype thing
I think everyone's got a fair bit of both in em

but I like being protected and held(submissive)
but when it comes to teh sack I'm on top >=)

Heheh... Well, whatever the situation is... whether I'm on top or he is, I will be the one being fucked, not fucking.. ^_^ get it?


That's what I want... hihihi X_X

I agree on anything here XD
It's all the same with me :D

COOL... A guy just like me...Ahaha~ We have the same wants too.. COOL.

^_^ hey, can I be your friend? Hmm ^_^

Sure why not XD You live in the Philippines? That's far away!

Hey, thanks..!!

Yeah, heheh... How about you? Where exactly do you live? .. ^_~

the Netherlands as you can see next to the word ´Location:' :o
But we're going a bit offtopic now XD

Oh... heheh... I was just making sure...

Yeah, hehe sorry. ^_^

for me its quite interesting, i have a dark type of mood swing which tends to put me in a lustful mood of where i become top. well at least more people know of this secret X3

Hehe~ Well, there those types like you... ^_^

yes, however its also a mood used under other circumstances as well.

Ohw... I see... O_o... hehe.. ^_~

lol ive experience been fucked by a guy but im always the top hehehe

Eh?! cool... So you've experienced it huh? Wow... O_O

i'm top! :D

Heh, it makes me blush saying this cause im new but im a bottom, although if asked to i do go on top, but for the most part i'm a bottom:o

I am more of a top then a bottom. But I would not mind being a bottom now and then.

I am an uke....

and wow I am suprised by the number of seme here...so you do exist!! XD

Well, being a girl who is only into guys I'm sort of limited to uke position , although...someone said something about a strap-on earlier *wheels in head spinning*...maybe if I can only get him to agree.......mmmm well... the posibilities....
But, anyway, about the spanking topic - I'm definatley the spanker... I just love the smacking sound and the way he jumps...
Maybe if I were a guy I would switch sometimes during sex, but would probably still be the bottom - I love to spank but when it comes to sex I really love to be dominated most of the time.